I encourage all of you to get involved in the pro-life movement in your own communities. Contact your local life-affirming pregnancy center and seek how you can use your talent and passion to help save lives. There are so many different ways you can make a difference and so many lives who need you. There are other helpful links on the side of this blog that you can click on for other pro-life organizations and info. You can help bring an end to the tragedy that is abortion.
I encourage all of you to get involved in the pro-life movement in your own communities. Contact your local life-affirming pregnancy center and seek how you can use your talent and passion to help save lives. There are so many different ways you can make a difference and so many lives who need you. There are other helpful links on the side of this blog that you can click on for other pro-life organizations and info. You can help bring an end to the tragedy that is abortion.
Jill Stanek testified, under oath, as well as did other nurses, that this kind of disregard to human life was happening in our hospitals. The Born Alive Infant Protection Act enacted in 2002 by Congress extends legal protection to an infant born alive after a failed attempt at induced abortion. These are the kinds of laws we need enforced and protected and it takes public leaders who strongly value the life every human being.
The same political figure who voted against the Born Alive Infant Protection Act THREE TIMES is also the same man who created the current health care bill that seeks to expand abortions across the nation with the funding of our tax dollars. Do you now see the importance of voting pro-life?
Don't vote for political parties. Vote for leaders who will create and defend laws that protect human lives.
Teenage Girls & Sexual Pressure
There have been studies that show nearly half of teenage girls felt pressured into having sex on at least one occasion. Nearly a quarter reported having oral sex to "avoid having sexual intercourse" with a partner.
Approximately one in three adolescent girls in the United States is a victim of physical, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner – a figure that far exceeds victimization rates for other types of violence affecting youth. Nearly 40 percent of those girls also admitted to having unwanted sex because they were afraid that their boyfriend would be angry if they said no. Ten percent, though, said their partner forced them to have sex when they didn’t want to
Emerging Issues:
- One in five teen girls have electronically sent or posted nude or semi-nude photos or videos of themselves. Even more teen girls, 37 percent, have sent or posted sexually suggestive text, email or IM (instant messages).
- More than half of teen girls (51 percent) say pressure from a guy is a reason girls send sexy messages or images
- Twelve percent of teen girls who have sent sexually suggestive messages or images say they felt “pressured” to do so.
One in three boys ages 15-17 say they feel pressure, often from male friends, to have sex. Some boys claim having sex is more important than feeling the pleasure that comes with it. Being able to tell their friends is sometimes more important than any pleasure that they would share with their intimate or sexual partner.
18 percent of teen boys say pressure from a girl is a reason they sent sexy messages or images.
Eight in 10 teens say that a lot of people their age drink or use drugs before having sex and about a quarter said that alcohol or drugs had influenced their decision to do something sexual at least once.
These unwanted sexual experiences result in risk for sexually transmitted infections and pregnancies. Unwanted sex -- including rape and being pressured into sex -- has been related to depression and anxiety disorders in teenage girls. The physical and emotional effects that result from unwanted, or coerced sex are real and can both be equally as damaging to young teens.
Positive Approaches To The Pressures Teens Face
We need to give guidance to teens on how to communicate with each other, that means helping them to take more control over their sexual activity, and to understand what constitutes as pressure. The majority of teens believe that abstinence before marriage is a good thing but they also view abstinence as something that is unattainable. We need to reinforce the reality that practicing chastity is not only rewarding and effective, but it's possible, it is an attainable goal. We can do this by focusing on the positives of chastity and why it is so rewarding.
Positives of Chastity
- Clarity of vision -you can value the relationship beyond sexual pleasure
- Encourages creativity - allows you to find creative ways to express how you love and care for someone in creative, non-physical ways
- Lower Divorce Rate -couples who marry as virgins have a 70% lower divorce rate
- Training in faithfulness - couples who save sex for marriage are 6 times more likely to be faithful to their spouse in marriage
- Your "yes" means so much more -if you never say "no" to sex then what is your "yes" really worth?
- Frees us to love -you're not in it for the taking but in it to give, not give it away, but give a gift of yourself, only with self control can you make a gift of yourself
On the May 9 episode of the VH1 reality show, 'What Chilli Wants', TLC hip hop girl group member Rozonda "Chilli" Thomas opened up about her abortion.
In the video Chilli described aborting at age 20 for unfortunately common reasons, because she "didn't have the support" and "was so scared."...
This was also at the beginning of her musical career, she said, and she didn't know how she could do both it and motherhood.
So Chilli opted to "not have it" (couldn't say "abortion"), which turned out to be "one of the biggest mistakes," because she "didn't want to do that."
Then Chilli began to describe what abortion proponents say doesn't exist, post abortive stress syndrome as a result of her abortion. "It messed me up," she said, "I don't know, it broke my spirit."
Chilli felt she lost her "strong self," and that she "gave in, broke to what someone else wanted." Obviously, she felt pressured to abort.
She said she began to break down, to cry "because I wasn't a mommy" - almost every day for almost 9 years.
Chilli decided the only way to "fix it" was to have a baby with the same man, her 1st record producer, Dallas Austin .
Chilli doesn't talk about this in the video, but she indeed had a baby with Austin, son Tron, now ~13 years old, pictured right with her.
I very much appreciate Chilli's honesty.
It is brave women like her coming forward and sharing their painful, yet true and life changing stories that will help other women and bring awareness about the issue of abortion.
Cecile Richards, the current president of the largest abortion business in the nation, sent out Planned Parenthood's annual Mother's Day fundraiser today.
"It's almost Mother's Day ... and if you have a mother in your life who's anything like me or my mom (the late Texas Governor Ann Richards), then you know nothing would make her happier than a gift that represents bold and compassionate values. Like a gift in her honor to Planned Parenthood Federation of America," she writes.
"We've made it quick and easy — and we've even made it pretty," Richards adds. "Honor a mother in your life with a gift to Planned Parenthood. [It's] a gift your loved one will appreciate — and remember."
But I think Planned Parenthood would make more from its fundraising appeal if it didn't make it so there are fewer people who could give. Planned Parenthood could make even more money from its shameless exploitation of Mothers Day if they stopped making women childless from abortion, a better Mothers Day gift would be to organizations that help women cherish their motherhood, and that is life-affirming pregnancy resource centers. Give the gift of Life this Mother's Day and donate to your local pregnancy center in your mother's name and help other mothers in need and their children.
I spoke to my first audience of teenage students in March of this year and previous to that had always felt a need to step out and really reach out to our youth. I feel I have a unique perspective on the subject because of my own personal experiences and really wanted to provide these young people with the truth about love and relationships. I have always felt like we as a society were failing them by not educating them about not only the risks of casual sex but the positive rewards of practicing chastity.
It has always bothered me that the approach of abstinence based programs were more to scare the kids out of having sex instead of showing them how awesome sex can be if they wait! Rather than focusing on the benefits of chastity, the focal point seemed to be on the dangers of promiscuity and careless sex. Yes, we need to address both the negative consequences but we need to discuss the positive outcomes. I think there would be more success stories if we try to focus on the positives rather than the negatives.
I mean, if we're just telling them the bad things that could happen because of their poor choices they will just think "sex is bad" and sex is meant to be good when it is experienced within the exclusive bond of marriage. But if we don't tell them WHY it is BETTER within marriage then they are just going to assume that sex is sex so why wait when I can have it now?
I have had some positive responses from a few of these teens who have contacted me after my talks and I really feel like that is because 1. I was real with them. I told them the truth and made myself approachable...I didn't stand up there and talk at them, I allowed them to see that I am simply a normal person with a normal life and that it doesn't take a special person to make good choices, it just takes strength and courage...something that they all have and can use if they choose. And 2. I didn't focus on the negative aspects of careless sex, but instead the positive REWARDS of waiting. I really believe that this is key to reaching them so that they have a true understanding that they are in control and they have the ability to make great choices when it comes to relationships.
These young people are being sent all the wrong messages on t.v. through music and by many of the adults in their lives. We have made the excuse that "they are teenagers, teenagers have sex" but instead of buying into that, we need to take a stand and say "they are valuable individuals who deserve the BEST!" That's my heart's desire. I hope that I will have more opportunities to connect with our youth in the future and that others will join me in sharing the truth to these young people who just need a little honesty and direction.
- 1 in 5 adolescents currently have an STD
- Nearly 50% of teenage girls become pregnant while using the contraceptive pill and over 70% become pregnant while using condoms.
- The percentage of pregnancies that occur from abstinence is 0%.
With contraception, we can absolutely predict that some sexual encounters will result in pregnancy. The young, the poor and the unmarried are the most likely to experience a contraceptive failure. For these groups, pregnancy is not a rare accident, but highly likely. When the inevitable pregnancy occurs, guess who is ready to help solve her problem? That’s right: Planned Parenthood will sell her an abortion. The same people who teach sex education, which increases the demand for purchasing contraception, also sell the “solution” to contraceptive failure, which is abortion. Yet the federal government spends about $12 on contraceptive-related programs to every $1 spent on abstinence education.
We don’t give federal grants to tobacco companies to teach students “low-risk” forms of smoking on the grounds that “kids are going to smoke anyway.” We shouldn’t be giving federal grants to groups that sell contraception, to teach kids to use contraception.
Ever heard the phrase: "Medically Accurate, Comprehensive Sex Education"?
To the average person, a program that claims to be “comprehensive” and “medically accurate” sounds very acceptable. At face value it is almost understandable that school boards and city councils would be taken in by a program described like this.
However, the problem is that when Planned Parenthood claims that its sex ed programs will be “comprehensive” and “medically accurate,” it is lying, plain and simple. According to Planned Parenthood “condom use is, by far, a superior safer sex strategy.”If that were PP’s rationale, then it would only advocate for abstinence before marriage and fidelity to one’s spouse afterward, as it is the most “superior safer sex strategy” since it is 100 percent effective. We contend that the real reason Planned Parenthood doesn’t support abstinence focused education is simply because it isn’t one of the services PP sells.
I do believe that the abstinence focused education needs to focus more on the benefits of why practicing chastity is a positive thing, not just that it prevents pregnancy and STDs but that valuing ourselves and our sexuality enough to wait allows for true freedom and expression. Because the time will come where we can share ourselves freely and openly without fear of negative consequences and that time should come with the certainty that our spouse shares the same love, honor and respect that we have for them. You can't have the kind of freedom and respect outside of marriage, that's the reality. Chastity is not about preventing so much as it is about providing a foundation for true love and true freedom. That's the message I believe our teens need to hear.